a couple of people have told me off today for continuing to express my opinions. they’ve said that it’s “annoying”, and that I “attack” anyone with an opposing view to my own.
firstly, this is all in response to me talking about sexual harassment and rape culture. apparently it’s “annoying” for…
Firstly, I don’t condone the sexist attitude that men have towards women, and it’s quite disgusting. But since there is very little you (and women in general) can do about it, and that there is little harm in what is essentially a very loud and obnoxious compliment, is it so hard to just accept it as a boost of your self esteem?
A man has just called you hot, from a far, and hasn’t physically attacked you in any way, so in this instance I don’t really understand why you’re so angered by it.
Obviously, when it gets to the stage of “in da club” grinding and actual physical harassment and rape and “well she was asking for it” that is wrong and incomprehensible that it’s even an argument. But I’m not discussing that issue, I am simply asking about why you are so affected by men doing this.
“is it so hard to just accept it as a boost of your self esteem?”
you just told me to see harassment as a compliment, I refuse to engage in any further debate with you.
Okay, it might be a little late to be adding to this conversation but I have something to say.
Since a lot of people seem to be under the impression that a man yelling at a women is just a compliment. I am going to briefly explain why it is not.
First of all a compliment is a polite expression of praise or admiration. To wolf whistle or yell at someone is not a compliment. However to harass someone like that dehumanizes them.
Yes, it is not the same as the act of raping someone. But it can be just as bad as it leads to rape.
Over time as men harass women like this it creates an idea that women are less than human. It may not seem this way, but that is what happens.
As women slowly become degraded in people’s minds, the idea of rape or abuse becomes easier to commit. It is harder to commit an action like this to an equal, but if you can dehumanize someone then it become much easier.